Updated: Jan 12, 2020
2020 is only days away.
Not only does this mark the end of the year... it marks the end of a decade. A decade.
I've spent more time than normal reflecting on who I am and who I want to be as I enter into the new year ahead.
This time of year is a cue to consciously turn inward, reflect on how far you've come, and reignite your hopes and dreams for your future.
A new year is a rebirth.
A time to re-evaluate. To re-center. To re-align.
But HOW you choose to reevaluate, realign, and recenter is up to you.
Many people, especially the media and marketing, use the new year as an opportunity to buckle down on "shoulds."
There's an inherent sacredness in this time of reflection and goal setting that has been robbed by companies convincing you that you didn't try hard enough this year.
That you failed your goals.
That you slacked off.
That you didn't work enough hours or go to the gym enough mornings.
The thought is: if you feel bad about some of what happened this year, you'll do differently in the future.
This results in goals like:
FINALLY stick to a diet
Figure out a workout plan that will STICK
BUCKLE DOWN and do the damn thing
Reflect on past MISTAKES and promise to differently next time.
Unfortunately though, these goals are rooted in the same thing:
My wish for you is that you start 2020 free of guilt and "shoulds."
"Shoulds" are anything:
That feels like there's a right or wrong
That you feel obligated to do
You do because you feel it's expected
That feels forced
That you're doing out of fear
☝That last one is really important. ANYTHING YOU'RE DOING OUT OF FEAR.
As you're setting your goals and intentions for the new year, I encourage you to check in with your body.
When you think about this goal do you feel heavy or light?
Do you feel excited and motivated? Or intimidated and under pressure?
👉My guess is you have a few standard new years resolutions that you tend to cycle through. You might even set the same goal every. single. year.
Hard truth? That goal isn't right for you.
If you've been trying to go to the gym 3 days a week for the past ten years and it's just not happening, that doesn't mean you failed.
It means you need to reevaluate the goal.
Do you even enjoy going to the gym? What's your motivation for going anyways? How will you feel if you achieve this goal? How will you feel if you don't? Are there any other ways you could achieve the same result with different actions? Actions that feel exciting or in alignment with your values?
I encourage you to spend time reflecting on this past year... this past decade.
Because you're way more amazing than you give yourself credit for.
And your future has the potential to be even more incredible than you can imagine.
But not if fear and guilt are running the show.
Alright, it's time to pull out a pen and paper. Light some candles. Play some music. Take some deep breaths. And allow yourself to tap into your heart's deepest cries. Your soul's deepest yearnings.
Here are some questions to get you started:
What are you most proud of from this year/decade?
What challenges have you overcome?
What moments & events made your heart light up the most?
What does you dream life look like 1 year from now? 5 years from now? 10 years from now?
What steps can you take today to get you closer to ☝☝ that?
What do you want to take with you into 2020 and what do you want to leave behind?
After you've answered these questions see what common themes are present.
What are some intentions you want to set for 2020?
Are there any ways you can bring more love and joy into your life? Are there any shifts you need to make or boundaries you need to set?
I've done A LOT of journaling over the past few weeks. And I can tell you firsthand that I feel immense clarity and gratitude after going through this process myself.
My (business) year in review:
I launched my coaching business
I got my LLC
I started this blog
I grew my email list from 0 to 119
I grew my IG following from 100 to 568
I gave my first sermon
I led a 2-hour workshop on Spirituality and Body Image
I presented at The Ness Fest - Raising Body Positive Children
I designed the Soulful Food and Body Experience and created all of the supplementary materials
I had five coaching clients
I was interviewed on two podcasts
I guest posted for two blogs
I was a guest for a FB live training on body image & preparing for a photoshoot
My (personal) year in review:
I GOT ENGAGED! 😍😍😍
I lived in NYC for a month on my own, knowing no one, and had the TIME OF MY LIFE
I left my full-time job as a case manager at a non-profit
I started teaching dance again ♥♥♥♥♥
I battled intense chronic pain
I got a new tattoo
2019, I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR YOU.